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Birthday Party Thank You Notes from 3-Year-Olds

Birthday Party Thank You Notes from 3-Year-Olds

I have a confession to make. It’s almost a month after Liam’s birthday and I have yet to send out a thank you card. While I feel plenty guilty, I’m also a little conflicted about it. I’ve never been a fan of writing thank you notes on Liam’s behalf – something about it always felt a little awkward to me. I could never get myself to write in the “Liam-voice” so it always ended up just being a thank you note from me which, while I’m sure was appreciated, seemed to defeat the point to a certain degree.

Ways to Send “Thank You” Notes from Kids

The way I look at it, I’ve got a short window to pick from a few different options here. I could…

Blowing out birthday candles1. Suck it up. Liam is three. Writing thank you notes is still a ways off. Perhaps it’s time for me to just accept the fact that the thank you note obligation will fall on my shoulders for the time being. From what I remember from my own childhood, this transitions nicely into nagging him to write thank you notes in a few years, right?

2. Go digital. Part of the reason I feel weird about writing notes on Liam’s behalf is he is fully capable of expressing himself, he’s just not ready for the pen and paper medium yet. Perhaps I could send videos e-thank you cards? I like this plan in theory until I consider how I would get him to sound enthusiastic about his less-than-favorite gifts (basically anything other than cars or trains).

3. Get creative. Perhaps I could find a way to incorporate Liam in the thank you process? This has always been my preferred route but after driving him to tears while making handprint thank you notes awhile back (not one of my finer mom moments), I’m nervous about starting something that I’ll then end up having to force him to complete.

4. Pretend they got lost in the mail. This option is getting more appealing by the day. It happens all the time that every single thank you note you send mysteriously never arrives at their intended destinations, right?

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  1. Eboni September 11, 2014 at 9:19 am

    HA! Or maybe another perspective is that the gift probably didn’t technically come from another kid anyway. So most times it’s really one parent thanking the other parent who probably bought the gift on their kid’s behalf. 🙂

    Happy Belated Birthday Liam!

    • Media Mom September 12, 2014 at 1:54 pm

      Oh — this is a tough one, and it gets harder before it gets easier, because I think the absolute worst stage is roughly Kindergarten when they’re just learning to write, and you want them to use their newly acquired skill, but it takes 100 years and sometimes a few tears for them to write anything. But I think I’ve settled on a new approach for gifts from relatives. If I can, I try to take a picture of my 3-year-old son using the gift — or at least posing with it, and send a quick note via e-mail, text, or Facebook messenger, depending on the gift giver, letting them know how much he enjoys it. It was inspired by a note I got from my niece with her son smiling on his bed with the Jake and the Neverland Pirate sheets we gave him for Christmas and a funny comment he made about the fact that they shouldn’t put Scary Captain Hook’s picture on the pillow case where your head goes. The message came at least 4 months after we gave him the gift, but I couldn’t have cared less. It was still the best Thank You message we’ve ever received. That said, I still make my 7-year-old write her own notes. But the fill-in-the-blank stationary gets more enticing every day.

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