I Bought My Son Pink Sneakers
We have a sneaker issue in our house. My kids feet don’t actually grow that quickly but their sneakers get gross and the velcro stops sticking and the toes go bare from using them to stop their bikes. For a few years, they both just wanted the same style shoes in whatever size they currently wore. As Media Mom suggested, we’d just order the shoes from Zappos over and over. Easy peasy.
We found a version of New Balance shoes that worked really well for Max. They were velcro (per the request of his Occupational Therapist) so he could get them on and off himself, but looked like they were tie shoes (per my request). But then we noticed that Max’s shoes kept falling off. I don’t know if it was a size thing, a sensory thing, or just a new movement he was picking up, but he was constantly pulling his foot out of his shoe while walking. It happened at Disney, at the grocery store on a rainy day (so he would step out of the car, get his sock sopping wet, THEN tell us his shoe was off) and it was happening at school. Overnight shipping from Zappos to the rescue. We ordered another pair, in a slightly larger size and the same thing kept happening (that’s $50 I’ll never get back!). So we decided the only option was to buy him shoes with laces this time around so they’d stay tighter on his foot.
Lucky for Max (and me), I had planned a girls shopping day with my mom and my sister for that weekend and we hit up the New Balance outlet. I didn’t think they had anything that worked…but then I turned around and there was what I thought was the perfect shoe. But it was on the end of the aisle with the “girls” shoes. But they were red, right? We all thought they were even after holding them up next to other pink shoes.
What we should have done was hold them up to other RED shoes because once we got home I looked at them next to his other red sneakers and sure enough, I think they’re pink. The thing is, he doesn’t know they’re pink. They fit him well and I’ve already wasted money on one brand new pair of shoes that he’s not going to wear.
I know I’m not supposed to care. I mean, he wears pink shirts and rocks a mean skinny jean. But I do care. He already stands out so much because of his needs and the fact that he wears noise cancelling headphones on the bus. I let him choose his own outfits in the morning, so most of the time he looks ridiculous, but is happy so I don’t care. Deep down though, I really ache for him to fit in. We’re thinking about getting him different shoelaces to see if it helps, but part of me really thinks I should just push through this and let him wear the shoes as is. What would you do?
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