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I Bought My Son Pink Sneakers

I Bought My Son Pink Sneakers

We have a sneaker issue in our house. My kids feet don’t actually grow that quickly but their sneakers get gross and the velcro stops sticking and the toes go bare from using them to stop their bikes. For a few years, they both just wanted the same style shoes in whatever size they currently wore. As Media Mom suggested, we’d just order the shoes from Zappos over and over. Easy peasy.

We found a version of New Balance shoes that worked really well for Max. They were velcro (per the request of his Occupational Therapist) so he could get them on and off himself, but looked like they were tie shoes (per my request). But then we noticed that Max’s shoes kept falling off. I don’t know if it was a size thing, a sensory thing, or just a new movement he was picking up, but he was constantly pulling his foot out of his shoe while walking. It happened at Disney, at the grocery store on a rainy day (so he would step out of the car, get his sock sopping wet, THEN tell us his shoe was off) and it was happening at school. Overnight shipping from Zappos to the rescue. We ordered another pair, in a slightly larger size and the same thing kept happening (that’s $50 I’ll never get back!). So we decided the only option was to buy him shoes with laces this time around so they’d stay tighter on his foot.

Pink Sneakers and Red SneakersLucky for Max (and me), I had planned a girls shopping day with my mom and my sister for that weekend and we hit up the New Balance outlet. I didn’t think they had anything that worked…but then I turned around and there was what I thought was the perfect shoe. But it was on the end of the aisle with the “girls” shoes. But they were red, right? We all thought they were even after holding them up next to other pink shoes.

What we should have done was hold them up to other RED shoes because once we got home I looked at them next to his other red sneakers and sure enough, I think they’re pink. The thing is, he doesn’t know they’re pink. They fit him well and I’ve already wasted money on one brand new pair of shoes that he’s not going to wear.

I know I’m not supposed to care. I mean, he wears pink shirts and rocks a mean skinny jean. But I do care. He already stands out so much because of his needs and the fact that he wears noise cancelling headphones on the bus. I let him choose his own outfits in the morning, so most of the time he looks ridiculous, but is happy so I don’t care. Deep down though, I really ache for him to fit in. We’re thinking about getting him different shoelaces to see if it helps, but part of me really thinks I should just push through this and let him wear the shoes as is. What would you do?



  1. Organized Mom April 8, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    Keep the shoes and don’t worry about it. BUT he’s also an age that kids may give him a hard time and since you may want to avoid want teasing, you could just switch the laces to a fabulous blue, red or black. My son is 4 so I probably would leave them as is but my daughter is 7 and 7 is tough! Kids are mean. So unless she insisted on a pair of shoes that looked more like a pair for boys, I would probably tone it down. (But I wouldn’t trade in the shoes – sneakers are expensive and lace sneakers are impossible to find!)

  2. Laura April 12, 2014 at 7:59 am

    If it helps at all, the shoes really don’t seem to have too much pink on them, seems like mostly in the back, which, with socks on, may not be that noticeable, and otherwise it’s mostly the laces. If you’d feel better about it, just change out the laces. It’s hard enough to find good shoes that are comfortable, and that will last, so it doesn’t seem like it’s worth getting rid of. I know how hard it is to deal with all the issues kids go through socially, and how much we want to make it easier for them, but sometimes the worst thing we can do is point out the things we’re uncomfortable with which just brings it to their attention. My daughter was extremely shy. To the point where she spoke to nobody. I’d have kids ask me if she knew how to talk, and why she didn’t. As easy as it is to say she’s shy, it was only going to make it worse for her, giving her an excuse not to talk and to hide behind being shy. She’s come a LONG way, and now has a ton of friends at school, but it’s because we found a different school, and everyone was extremely patient with her. So, really, if it’s more comfortable, switch out the laces, but when you do it, don’t make an issue out of ‘because they’re pink’. Maybe make it about they stay tied better, or the others were too long.

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