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Peer Pressure

I am beside myself. My sweet cuddly little girl is turning into a bully. Last week she kicked another child off of the climber. Yesterday I came home and found out she was hitting her friends at school. Her teachers wouldn’t tell us who it was, but of course Commuter Girl told us within 30 seconds…it was one of her best friends! At least twice a week her teacher is telling us that she has had to be removed from activities for misbehaving. At home, we try to talk about why hitting and kicking are wrong; we talk about using words and not hands. But, does a 2 ½-year-old really understand that?

I’m sure this is all common toddler behavior, but I just don’t know how to handle it. Her teachers have asked us how we address the hitting at home. We don’t. She doesn’t hit at home. Am I just making excuses by assuming that some of this is due to the influence of the other children at school? She wasn’t afraid of “monsters” until a few of the other children started talking about it in her class. Would she be misbehaving as much if I stayed home with her rather than going to work?!? Is she just bored?!


  1. Anonymous July 9, 2008 at 2:48 pm

    Kids understand everything and remember nothing. The old expression “kids will be kids” was said for a reason and has survived the ages for the same reason. Parents are always second guessing themselves: “should I have done this?” or “should I have done more?” The truth of it is, do what you think is right. It all comes out in the wash and in the end, most children grow into responsible well-adjusted adults despite their parents.

  2. Anonymous July 27, 2008 at 10:21 am

    I had a biter when my little guy was about the same age your little one. I was mortified every time I got to the center and I had one of those “sheets”. I asked repeatedly what could I do, and really there was nothing. Just reinforce that biting is bad.

    Well it did gradually get less and less and then one time I got another one of those dreaded sheets and I was thrilled that my child was the one bitten rather than the one that bit.

    Probably not the best reaction that I was thrilled, but I felt like we had started to turn the corner.

    Your child will grow out of it — as long as your center and teachers are patient, it will get better.

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