How Was Your Day? Tips for Getting Children to Talk
When babies start talking a great joy is felt by parents. So it can be frustrating for parents when their talkative baby becomes a quiet toddler. If you haven’t experienced it yet, there will be a day when you ask your child about what they did at school that day, you will hear “nothing!” or “I don’t know!” as a response. Getting your child to talk and tell you about their day can be a tough task. We asked the Family Room bloggers to share their best tips and strategies for getting their children to talk and starting engaging conversations based around the question “How was your day?”.
Tips for Getting Children to Talk about Their Day
Ask for a Funny Story. Every night we ask the kids what the funniest part of their day was and what their favorite part of the day was. Sometimes they voluntarily will share their saddest if they had one. What cracks me up is the kids will often claim not to have a funny moment and then insist that mom and dad need to figure out a way to make them laugh before bedtime! –Mary, Organized Mom
Ask Specific Questions. I’ve learned that with both kids (ages 3 and 7) it really helps to get them to talk if I ask specific questions like, “What did you do in art class?” Or “Did you play with Tyler today?” It seems easier for both of them to answer than just a broad “How was school?” type of question. – Media Mom
Don’t Pressure Them. My daughter tends to talk about her day when she’s getting ready for bed or after we have read some books. She needs to unwind from her day and take her time to tell me about feelings (good or bad). If I press her and ask a ton of questions I don’t tend to get the response I’m looking for – so I just wait for her to tell me. I find she’s usually eager to share when she’s ready. – Lisa
The Happy/Sad Jar. We always talk about our days during family dinner. It’s the time of night that works best for my children. We’ve been doing it since Olivia (now age 7) was little and love to use the happy/sad jar method. Owen, our toddler, gets right into it. We usually guide our questions based on his daily What in the World Happened curriculum summary emails we get from his teacher. It’s one of my favorite times of the day. – Amy, Nourish Mom
How about you? What strategies work best in your household for getting children to open up and talk about the day?
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