Finding Work/Life Balance as a Working Mom
There are days when I think I’ve got this parenting thing totally under control. Then there are days where I just want to call out sick from work and stay in bed all day. Oh, if only it were so easy! But there’s a toddler to dress, feed, and get to school, a calendar filled with meetings and deadlines, oh, and let’s not forget that I’ve got to call the plumber, make a vet appointment for the dog, check in with my mom to see what she needed help with, and confirm with my husband that we’re free next weekend so we can get back to our friends about that playdate to get our girls together. Maybe I can take that personal day next week? I guess that’s more likely in ten years…
Work/Life Balance: Have You Cracked the Code?
While it certainly took me and my husband a while to get accustomed to our new lifestyles as parents once my daughter was born (and again when I returned to work), I will say that I’m a big proponent of self-care for each of us, as well as the both of us together, as a couple. So much so that I was determined to schedule at least one date night (or day date) a month for me and my husband to spend some time together alone for dinner, a movie, the beach, etc. Whatever we’re able to do (even if it’s just a simple dinner and a movie), it’s usually just the right amount of adult conversation and change of scenery we need to step away from our busy day-to-day schedules.
Even though I always have the best of intentions to prioritize our quality time together, the reality is doesn’t take long for that monthly date to fall through the cracks. As any parent knows, once you think you’re in a good groove, something comes right along to derail it all; be it teething, sickness, dropping a nap, work deadlines, or just plain old “toddlerdom”—there’s always something! Well, we experienced a series of somethings which not only made our dates non-existent, but made me feel like I was constantly on-the-go—and very recently, I decided I’d had enough.
My patience had gone out the door, our house was a mess, and quite honestly it occurred to me that I wasn’t being a good parent, spouse, daughter, sister or friend. I started off that weekend by informing my husband of this sudden realization, then delegated a ton of errands his way and dedicated some time to a few things that I wanted to do for myself that constantly fell to the bottom of my to-do list (in turn making me super anxious—can any of my Type A friends relate?). I also scheduled a massage for myself and was determined to prioritize a date night. That was a good start, but here’s the thing I’m still struggling with:
How do I get to those things more regularly while staying on top of my work deadlines and making time for my family and friends without first reaching the end of my rope?
Even as someone who understands the value of self-care, I struggle to find the right balance and to know how to prioritize and re-prioritize all these aspects of my life. That’s why I’m planning to tune in to our upcoming webinar, Striking a Balance: The Work/Life Equation, with Drs. Marti and Erin Erickson. I’m eager to learn more tips to help me figure out how I can find the right balance.
How about you? Do you find yourself in a similar struggle? Do you have any tips that have helped you find balance?
I’m Laura a first-time mom, employee of Bright Horizons and a foodie who loves to cook, travel and laugh. In my free time, I like to pretend I know how to use my DSLR like a pro and do basically all things creative (major DIY-er here). I’m excited to share some of the ups-and-downs of parenthood as my husband, two dogs and our newest addition explore life as a family of five!
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