Going Into Labor: The Ultimate Surprise Party
So far, one of the hardest things for me to accept with pregnancy is the fact that I have no idea when my baby will arrive. I’m not one for surprises. Ever since I can remember, I’ve always known every Christmas and birthday present before I’ve opened it – either from snooping or asking questions. I’m prepared for anything that could possibly happen in a given day. Need a tide stick? I’ve got it. Need a blanket? I’ve got three in my car. Need any type of over-the-counter mediation? I’ve got them all in my purse. I’m ready for anything. The fact that I’ve always known these things makes me comfortable. I know what to expect and I know how prepared I should be. With every event I encounter, I’ve already considered every best-case and worst-case scenario.
Not knowing when I will go into labor, if my water will break, where I will be when it happens, who I will be with, etc., stresses me out. How can you be prepared for something so big but not know when it will happen, what it will feel like or how you will react? I’ve asked all of my new mom friends for advice on when they knew they were in labor, hoping I’d be able to identify a common theme, but I couldn’t! Each story was completely different.
In an effort to be as prepared as possible, I’ve convinced myself that this baby is going to arrive before her due date. I’ve started planning and packing my maternity bag and am watching for any sign that labor is near. My husband thinks I am crazy but it is the only way for me to cope with the unknown – to run through every “what if” scenario in my head to try to outsmart the whole thing. I know in the end she will outsmart me and she will arrive when I am least expecting it. It will certainly, without a doubt, be the best surprise of my life and when the time comes, I’ll know that I wouldn’t have had it any other way. The unknown is a just part of life – it is one of life’s greatest mysteries. As much as we try to prepare for whatever we’re about to face, we never know what will truly happen until that moment comes.
I’m coming to terms with the fact that the day my daughter shows her beautiful face will be when she decides she’s ready, not me – perhaps to teach me my very first lesson as a mom – that in life, you can’t always plan for everything and that some of the greatest gifts are those unexpected ones. And I couldn’t love her more for teaching me this lesson.
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