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Going Into Labor: The Ultimate Surprise Party

Going Into Labor: The Ultimate Surprise Party

So far, one of the hardest things for me to accept with pregnancy is the fact that I have no idea when my baby will arrive. I’m not one for surprises. Ever since I can remember, I’ve always known every Christmas and birthday present before I’ve opened it – either from snooping or asking questions. I’m prepared for anything that could possibly happen in a given day. Need a tide stick? I’ve got it. Need a blanket? I’ve got three in my car. Need any type of over-the-counter mediation? I’ve got them all in my purse. I’m ready for anything. The fact that I’ve always known these things makes me comfortable. I know what to expect and I know how prepared I should be. With every event I encounter, I’ve already considered every best-case and worst-case scenario.

Not knowing when I will go into labor, if my water will break, where I will be when it happens, who I will be with, etc., stresses me out. How can you be prepared for something so big but not know when it will happen, what it will feel like or how you will react? I’ve asked all of my new mom friends for advice on when they knew they were in labor, hoping I’d be able to identify a common theme, but I couldn’t! Each story was completely different.

In an effort to be as prepared as possible, I’ve convinced myself that this baby is going to arrive before her due date. I’ve started planning and packing my maternity bag and am watching for any sign that labor is near. My husband thinks I am crazy but it is the only way for me to cope with the unknown – to run through every “what if” scenario in my head to try to outsmart the whole thing. I know in the end she will outsmart me and she will arrive when I am least expecting it. It will certainly, without a doubt, be the best surprise of my life and when the time comes, I’ll know that I wouldn’t have had it any other way. The unknown is a just part of life – it is one of life’s greatest mysteries. As much as we try to prepare for whatever we’re about to face, we never know what will truly happen until that moment comes.

I’m coming to terms with the fact that the day my daughter shows her beautiful face will be when she decides she’s ready, not me – perhaps to teach me my very first lesson as a mom – that in life, you can’t always plan for everything and that some of the greatest gifts are those unexpected ones. And I couldn’t love her more for teaching me this lesson.



  1. Ruth August 24, 2013 at 11:25 pm

    My water broke while I was at work (at a Bright Horizons center!) So now I tell everyone: pack your bag early and keep towels in your car! 🙂 Keeping a list on the fridge of last minute items is helpful too- I was in total shock and able to give my husband an accurate list of things to grab for me.

    • Ruth August 24, 2013 at 11:26 pm

      should be *not able to give my husband an accurate list of things to grab for me.

  2. Christy Garrett @ Uplifting Families August 25, 2013 at 4:52 am

    I never went into labor on my own and the story that I got from most mom’s were along the lines of “oh you will know when its time to go to the hospital”. I wish that I could say this is true but I got every type of birth imaginable. My first baby – my water broke at home and they had to use pitocin to evict her. My second I was a week overdue and my OB sent me to L&D to be induced because of low fluid (I was having mild contractions and felt different that day but wasn’t in full blown labor). And my third baby I had to deliver two days after my due date by c-section because he was breech. I had several false runs with him and thought he was going to come early but he had a mind of his own.

    I will have to admit my second labor and delivery was the easiest. I was slowly induced and I ended up having him with only one dose of meds so that I could rest a few minutes. As the anesthesiologist was coming to give my epi, my son had other plans and was coming right then and there.

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