Guest Mom: When Does Mother’s Day Become My Day?
Like most moms, I believe I have an incredible daughter but have found juggling motherhood and working full time to be very challenging. With my chatty 17 month old and a career I love, it’s hard to find a balance.
This year I will be celebrating my second Mother’s Day. Last year, I put my foot down and selfishly stayed home. I relaxed, read a bit, played with my daughter, had pizza for dinner — nothing too fancy, but perfect. Sure, my husband took our daughter to see his mom for a brief visit, but we didn’t see my mom (which we received slack for). But what was great about last year was that I did what I wanted to do. For every other holiday, our family does what everyone else wants us to do. We figure out what both families are doing and then do the mad juggle between several houses (never our own of course and not by choice). By the end of each holiday we are exhausted. Not Mother’s Day though. That is my day…except this year.
Everyone was so disappointed last year so I’ve once again agreed to accommodate the older generation of moms. In doing this, of course we have to be fair and see both our moms, which means we will once again be driving all over the place. Lunch with one family, dinner with another, and a 45-minute drive in between. All the while, we will hold our breath hoping that our daughter stays in good spirits without a proper nap. In hindsight, I’m bitter with my decision. I wish I stood my ground because I am now dreading Mother’s Day. Next year I will be selfish again.
I wonder though, when does the switch happen with Mother’s Day? My mom certainly doesn’t see her mom and until recently my mother-in-law didn’t see her mom either. With a sister-in-law who still centers the day around her mom, when I can put my foot down permanently without being the selfish one? Have you put your foot down yet or do you also spend your Mother’s Day running around like any other holiday?