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- August 5, 2015 at 11:07 am #35216
Bright Horizons recently published this e-family news article about siblings with a wide age gap. Hopefully, there are some tips in there that can help!
Parenting Tips for when Children Have a Wide Age Gap: http://www.brighthorizons.com/family-resources/e-family-news/parenting-tips-for-when-children-have-a-wide-age-gap/April 28, 2014 at 9:57 pm #27462
A kid-free day of outlet shopping! My mom, sister and I have been doing this since I was in college. For a few minutes every year, I feel guilty about not spending the day with my kids. But I love having a day mostly free of guilt for taking “me” time.September 1, 2011 at 7:16 pm #23414
We went the surprise route with both. Though I was tempted to find out with my little one on the way just so I could clear out the bins of girl clothes if the baby is a boy. My husband didn’t want to know so that sealed the deal. I have a horrible game face and could never keep the news secret from him. With 6 weeks left I’m glad we didn’t find out because it’s fun for the whole family to be guessing and predicting.July 28, 2011 at 6:02 am #24221
My sister asked everyone to bring a book for my baby shower. It was a great way to discover great books as recommended by other children. At 4, my daughter still pulls out those books to read. One thing I wished everyone would have done is signed the inside so I can remember who gave her which book.
Some of her faves when she was an infant:
- Alligator Alphabet and Counting Cockatoos by Stella Blackstone
- Papa, Please get the Moon for Me by Eric Carle
- All the Dr. Seuss books (I happen to have a mini collection from when I was in college so that was helpful)
When they are infants you have a lot of flexibility of stories so just read anything with big bright pictures and I’m sure your baby will be engaged just by hearing your voice and snuggling on your lap.
Enjoy this time because in a short year or so you will read the same books over and over and over again.July 21, 2011 at 1:36 pm #23763
How about an informal play date with a few of his favorite friends? That way there is no pressure to have a big hoopla but your son will still feel as if his friends helped to celebrate his day. You can make is special by serving cupcakes or your son’s favorite snack.July 21, 2011 at 1:32 pm #23542
I just got an iPhone last month and am facing this struggle even more than before. My job has me on the computer all day so there are some days that I want to just go home and play dress-up or a board game with my family. But other days my volunteer work forces me to get online and check up on emails and other digital tasks. It’s so hard to balance.
I guess what I do is try to carve out time every day to interact with my family. We have family dinners most nights and usually try to engage together until bed time without the use of technology. I also try to plan fun weekend activities outside the home where technology has no place – like "pick your own" fruit farms, parks, etc.
We don’t do this yet but it may be time to start thinking about screen limits for the whole family not just the little ones. I’m looking forward to hearing how others solve this problem.July 20, 2011 at 2:29 pm #23676
This is a great question! I’ve been trying to figure out my daughter’s activity schedule for this coming year and it’s stressing me out. Since both my husband and I work full-time, we don’t have much flexibility with schedules. And we like to do family things together on the weekend. This past year, we tried to schedule her sports/activities for early Saturday and will probably stick to that.
Last year, she took dance in the fall and gymnastics in the spring. We keep winters open for skiing which has become a fun family activity. My husband also did a couple of parent and me soccer sessions that lasted 3-5 weeks in the early evening which he could do with his work schedule. My daughter is already asking for dance and gymnastics for the fall so am not really sure what we can pull off.
Growing up I tried dance, gymnastics and all sorts of sports but never really stuck to one thing. I want our daughter to do something she enjoys but also like the idea of sticking to one that she really likes. Right now, I think it’s gymnastics so we’ll probably head in that direction. And of course skiing because she likes that she can do that with mom and dad.July 20, 2011 at 2:13 pm #24357
Sara S. – I was laughing when I saw your comment "can’t believe it starts that early." I couldn’t either until I started seeing flashes of myself at 13 in the behavior and talk coming from my 4 year old. I was like "what?!?!"July 20, 2011 at 2:09 pm #24083
I think I could have wrote this original post myself. My 4 1/2 year old is sweet and loving one minute but so tempermental and bossy another. My husband and I tend to fall on the stricter side of discipline when it comes to respecting others but sometimes I don’t know if we are reacting the way we should or reinforcing the behavior. Based on some of the suggestions, I think we are doing some of the right things though could improve in other ways.
I’ve also consulted with friends about this and know that it is normal behavior but I worry. Especially when a new babysitter says, "She’s a little bossy, huh?" and teachers comment, "She always has something going on." Is my child going to become THAT kid?!? Anyways, just wanted to say "I can relate and hope this stage passes soon."July 14, 2011 at 12:38 pm #23582
Fruit and yogurt are staples for us too. Another fun twist on the traditional sandwich are roll-ups. We use whole wheat burrito wraps and here are some filling ideas: cream cheese with a combo of tomatoes, cucumbers and/or carrots; hummus with cucumbers; sunflower seed butter and jelly or sliced banana; turkey and cheese slices or cream cheese; leftover chicken and vegetables; etc.