Meteor Showers & Motherhood
A lot has been made of the Perseid meteor shower this year since it came to a peak this early August and many have learned about this annual occurrence for the first time. Strangely enough, I’ve known about this yearly meteor shower my whole life. My older sister was born on August 11 at 2:13 a.m. and every year for the past 43, my mother has set her alarm for 2:13 a.m., gone outside and watched as shooting stars celebrate the anniversary of her becoming a mother.
Before I had children, and when I was much younger, I remember thinking that my mother was a bit over-the-top sentimental with this yearly tradition. After all, she had three of us…why make such a big deal about my sister (her first). And yes, I suppose there was a slight bit of jealously that a bigger deal was made about her first child than her second (I’m a classic middle child).
But with each passing year, I understand more clearly why she does it. My oldest is going to be nine soon, and honestly her birthday does have dual meaning for me. Not only do I celebrate her trips around the earth and marvel at who she is becoming, but I celebrate that that is the day I became a mother and would be forever changed. The night she was born, time seemed to slow down and I felt my world shift into a new place where the depths of love were deepened, the weight of responsibility was greater and the adventure of a lifetime had just started.
While my oldest was born in August, she was born too late in the month to co-op the Perseid meteor shower as my yearly tradition. Instead, I celebrate my motherhood with reflections of silent gratitude for both of my two amazing girls; reveling in their unique personalities and recognizing the changes inside of me that they have caused. My sister however, can continue our mother’s tradition because she became a mother three days after her birthday, also at 2:13 a.m. in the morning (thanks universe!) and the yearly meteors are still flying.
Do you have any special celebrations or traditions on the day your eldest was born?
I am many things to many people, but my favorite role of all, is as mom to my two girls, ages 8.5 and 3. I have pendulum swung between being a work-aholic mom and a stay-at-home mom and am currently trying to find the right balance of both worlds one day at a time. I’m pretty good at not sweating the small stuff and use the quote “Be silly. Be honest. Be kind.” from Ralph Waldo Emerson to guide me through life.