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Moms, Put on That Swimsuit – Just Do It

Moms, Put on That Swimsuit – Just Do It

Thank you, Jessica N. Turner, wherever you are (probably at the beach and loving every minute of it). Your Huffington Post blog post – Moms, Put on That Swimsuit – is an inspiration and just what I needed to read this week.

You see, I’ve been trying to figure out how I could get through the summer without having to put on a swimsuit…and shorts…and tank tops. You read that right. I’ve been seriously plotting if it would be at all possible not to wear tank tops ever again to avoid revealing my less-than-firm upper arms. And don’t even get me started on shorts. I had good intentions this winter of going to the gym and embracing my 40 year old body. It didn’t happen.

Dad and kids swimming in the poolI was hoping instead that middle age wisdom and confidence would just kick into gear. “Look at me. I’m forty, fabulous and free. I’m Sandra Bullock!” That didn’t happen either. So when this past weekend we were invited to our first BBQ and pool party, I went into high excuse mode for why it was my husband’s duty to take my toddler in the pool. Instead, I waved from the edge as I snapped adorable photos of my son jumping into the pool and laughing hysterically. It wasn’t at all depressing. Not at all.

Then the blog post went viral. Did you read it yet? Stop reading this and read it – Moms, Put on That Swimsuit. Read all of it, including the comments. What touched me is how the post gives perspective to what’s really important. I shouldn’t worry about the few extra pounds I gained this winter. I do because I’m human and I have my faults. But my kids don’t care. They just want to have fun with me. For their sake, I need to bury my insecurities. Afterall, would I want to look back in 10 years and realize I missed some awesome moments with my children because of clothes? It sounds so silly when I type that.

So, thank you Jessica N. Turner, for saving my summer. I almost let my confidence demons ruin all the fun.

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10 comments

  1. Ruth

    Ruth June 26, 2014 at 10:37 am

    Thanks for the boost Amy. Great post.

  2. Liz Benage (grandmab) September 14, 2014 at 1:10 pm

    I am 65 and finally got in the pool at the “Y”. I have lost 18 pounds in about 3 months. Grandma’s get in the pool along with the moms. By the way, my last blood pressure was 116/72.

  3. Grandma Debbie February 12, 2015 at 11:36 am

    This goes for grandmas too!

  4. Mom of 2 Boys February 24, 2015 at 5:25 pm

    “I shouldn’t worry about the few extra pounds I gained this winter.”

    Instead of this attitude, how about setting a goal to lose those pounds, then proudly show off your hard work? Doesn’t your husband deserve the wife that he married, not the woman who rationalizes the weight gained year after year? Those pounds add up, let me tell you from experience! It wasn’t until I took a good look at my 50 year old body and realized that the man I love deserved more than excuses about hormones & metabolism.
    So I started watching what I ate (removing lots of junk) and got into the gym to lift weights. When my husband saw my efforts, he started doing the same thing for me. Now we both look great and appreciate the gift we’ve given one another. After 25 years together, our marriage is as good as it’s ever been.

    Or…just buy a bigger swimsuit, and tell yourself you look fabulous, and that it doesn’t matter anyway.
    I suggest the large flowery print with the little skirt around it.

    • melina March 17, 2015 at 1:06 pm

      I never leave comments…but I felt the need to here. Some of us have legitimate health issues that severely restrict or limit our ability to lose that weight. I gained a lot of weight to find out that not only there was a problem with my thyroid but that it was cancer. Some of us feel lucky to be alive. Yet still have body image issues. You talk about what your husband deserves. Should your husband only love you based on your outward appearance?? Your husband realistically speaking should be devoted to you and love you regardless. I am not saying let things fall apart physically. But regardless of your weight your love and devotion to each other should top everything. Even..10.15. Or 50 lbs. I know your response will be….but I wasn’t talking about people like you…and and I am far from a victim. Which I think too many people in society take that stance. But that comment ma’am. Your comment is EXACTLY the reason women don’t wear swimsuits. Because other women are judging them based on appearance.
      Respectfully,
      Melina

      • Kevin March 21, 2015 at 11:35 am

        Far from a victim? 10, 15 50 pounds there is a difference. Last time I checked even women with illnesses and thyroid issues could exercise for better health instead of shaming everyone who recommends it, use it as a positive recommendation to better your health. You’re not a victim? Re-read your comment.

        • Melina March 23, 2015 at 10:21 am

          Kevin,
          Maybe I should have provided more details or specified..I believe exercise is EXTREMELY important…so much so that I exercise daily and have done so for 3 years.I also follow strict dietary guidelines provided by my Dr.,The issue I had was not in the recommendation to exercise but the reality that some people just can not lose the weight and there are medical reasons behind it. That woman ARE judging each other based on appearance rather than the content of character. Sadly that is the way most people are. I am not morbidly obese…I am a bit overweight..enough to make me self conscious about wearing a swimsuit. Regardless of our opinions, we are all entitled to our own beliefs. Really I am not a victim.
          Respectfully,
          Melina

          • Susan July 26, 2015 at 11:16 am

            God Bless you, Melina! You are so correct in your comments. Thank you. I bought swim capris and a tankini top. I enjoy beach and pool outings now.

    • Danielle December 30, 2015 at 6:36 am

      That is a disgusting way to comment on that blog. There are nicer ways to comment on what the author was trying to say…which was don’t get so caught up in yourself, your negative self-image, etc- and jump in the pool to have fun with your kids…instead of throwing your kids in the gym daycare for three hours to look good for your husband. If that’s how your marriage has to stay “good”, you may want to check into THAT as opposed to putting down someone who gained a little weight after taking care of children, etc.
      I think- in your selfish plight- lost sight of what the author’s overall gist was…maybe you should reread it and try being less hypercritical.

  5. Melon September 24, 2015 at 12:34 pm

    Oh yeah, I was a person who was so self-conscious about my slightly short, chubby body that I couldn’t get out of my own head to enjoy the pool with my child. Then, at some point, watching that none of the moms at the pool club EVER went in the pool when I sometimes went in (because I was hot), and a mom saying to me “oh, you are so brave to not care what you look like,” (from most fit mother there who won’t take her clothes off) I decided to do my own thing and get over my fears and self-loathing and get in the water whenever I could. Same mother says to me “oh, you are making us all look bad by playing with the kids in the water.” and I said “oh well!” and have enjoyed myself ever since. I now swim laps in the pool all summer and enjoy the sun and walk around enjoying the lovely weather. I found a pool club (we are not near any sort of beach) with women who don’t talk crap to me and our kids and all of us meet up and enjoy ourselves when we get out of work in the evenings. Some of us are fit, some thin, some heavier, who cares. Set the example for your kids!

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