Motherhood: World’s Toughest Job?
A few days ago, my former agency released a video that seems to have taken over the interwebs. In the video, created for American Greetings in advance of Mother’s Day, they interviewed people for the “World’s Toughest Job,” which they come to find out is being a mom. The concept and video are genius. And after watching it, I really do want to go out and buy my mom an extra special Mother’s Day card. If you haven’t already watched it, see for yourself:
If I’m being honest, while I totally appreciate the sentiment, I don’t think that being a mom is the world’s toughest job. And that’s not because it’s not tough – at times it certainly is – but because I don’t look at being a mother as a job. Quite frankly, it can’t be. Look at the job description – no one would be crazy enough to accept that position. Motherhood can’t be a job because on paper, you’re never going to get out of it what you put in. If I expected to be fairly compensated for every part of the “work” of motherhood from the difficult delivery to the sleepless nights to the list of unpleasant tasks required as a mom (plus all the fun parenting stuff to come that I don’t even know about yet), no amount would ever be enough. If this was a job, I would have quit a long time ago.
To me, motherhood is a commitment. One I made the moment they put Liam into my arms for the first time. It’s one I make every day and will make every day for the rest of my life. It’s one that (lest we forget) his dad makes every day too, just like the commitment we made and continue to make to each other and to our family.
Without question, becoming a mother has been the most life altering, paradigm shifting, and priority changing experience of my life. And what you get from it can’t really be measured or even explained. The work of motherhood – exhausting, unpleasant and frustrating as it may sometimes be – is trumped a thousand times over by the love I feel for my sweet little baby boy (and please don’t remind me that he’s not a baby anymore). That immeasurable love isn’t my compensation but rather it’s what sustains my commitment to being the best mom I can be for him today and every day forward.