More Photos of Mom: The Viral Message That Hit Home for Me
Did you see the recent viral Facebook post from Kaylin Maree Schimpf? I saw it at least two to three times on my Facebook feed – probably because it rang so true for so many of my friends who are mothers; I know I related to it as soon as I read the intro. Kaylin goes on to write that as mothers, our photo stream generally consists of pictures of our kids, pictures of our partner with the kids, a few selfies and very, very few photos of us as moms, interacting with and without our children. We’re so busy capturing and documenting others but who’s doing that for us? One day our children will look for photos of us, and there just won’t be very many in existence. She calls on our husbands & partners to step-up and start including us in the photos.
My husband doesn’t have the same sentimental make-up that I have. Because of this, I’ve recently taken to requesting he take photos of moments I know I’m going to want to remember. The photo above is one I asked for during our summer vacation. My youngest is getting so big, and my lap so small – these snuggles are getting harder and harder to execute. I asked my husband to put down his book and take some photos of it – and they are my new favorites. They also make me really wish I had a picture of me and my mom snuggled up when I was three.
Kaylin also mentions that no woman wants to look back at a lifetime of selfies, I actually don’t mind them. I generally take them while having a silly or intimate moment alone with my girls. To me, they actually document an important part of our relationship.
One thing she doesn’t mention is that there is another person who can take pictures of you…not just your spouse. It’s your kids. My older daughter took this picture of me making school lunches two years ago – still in my pajamas and messy morning hair. I keep it on my phone because each time I see it, I know that this picture of me, more than any posed moment is truly who I am to her. She sees all of me – the totally messy and the put together me, the sick and the healthy me, the ideal weight and the winter pounds, tight pants me, the happy, the sad, the frustrated, the dancing me – truly all of me. This picture taken from her vantage point is her mom. And that can’t be replicated by your spouse…ever.
So however it happens that you end up in a picture, just make it happen. And thanks Kaylin Maree Schimpf for your message that reminds us to get in front of the camera.
I am many things to many people, but my favorite role of all, is as mom to my two girls, ages 8.5 and 3. I have pendulum swung between being a work-aholic mom and a stay-at-home mom and am currently trying to find the right balance of both worlds one day at a time. I’m pretty good at not sweating the small stuff and use the quote “Be silly. Be honest. Be kind.” from Ralph Waldo Emerson to guide me through life.