Teachers vs. Parents (or Vice Versa)
Having spent the last year trying to figure out the public school system, I’ve come to some realizations. 1. I’m so grateful for the child care experience my children are having. No matter what age group or classroom, my sons have both had teachers that genuinely care for them and the well being of our family. We’ve had to work through newly diagnosed epilepsy, developmental delays, acid reflux, biting and I’m sure there is more to come. But the whole time, they’ve let my children be who they are. They’ve adjusted classroom settings and teaching strategies to fit my child, not vice versa. I’ve always felt like I’ve had someone to brainstorm with, a partner.
This leads me to my second realization. 2. Public school (at least my son’s current school) is a whole different world than child care and he will be expected to fit the mold. With my child just beginning his elementary school career, I’m forced to think about the things brought up in this article. Disclaimer: I have an education background. I don’t side with either the teachers or the parents- I think it needs to be a partnership. I’m willing to do my part if the teacher is willing to do hers. I have a growing concern that my oldest child will not fit the public school mold. He doesn’t learn best when forced to complete things in a certain amount of time. He doesn’t sit still…ever. He doesn’t ever appear to be listening or watching, but he is and he’s absorbing more than we ever imagine. My expectation as a parent is that his teacher will try to figure out how he learns and adjust his/her teaching style accordingly. However, that’s a completely unreasonable expectation since the boy sitting next to mine may learn in a completely different way. How do you form a relationship with a teacher you only see once or twice a year, and feel like you can discuss things like how taking away outside playtime is actually punishing the teacher more than my son because he’s going to be that much more active later that day?
I’m looking for guidance. Do I try and find a private school where my children can thrive and learn in their own way, or do I accept the fact that at some point, children have to learn to conform?