Telling Your Child You’re Pregnant – Part 2
A few years ago, Amy shared this adorable video of her daughter finding out she was going to be a big sister. Well, now it’s my turn to share the news. This belly is just too big to hide anymore. My boys are going to be big brothers. Both of them. We’ll be adding baby boy #3 to our family this August.
When I found out I was pregnant, one of my first thoughts was of Ben. My almost 5-year-old boy whom I still call “my baby”. We always talked about how he’d always be his mama’s baby, even when he was in college or a grown up or a daddy of his own. Now what was I supposed to do? Instead of feeling overjoyed, I was overcome with fear that instead of the joyous reaction Olivia gave her parents in the video, I’d get tears, and yelling and confusion.
When I was pregnant with Ben, Max was so young, we never even really told him. We just showed up with a baby one day and that was that. But now, at almost 7 and almost 5, we had to tell them. We had to let them know why mommy was sick all the time or needed to rest. Why daddy would sometimes raise his voice when Ben would run full speed to bear hug me, head butting my stomach in the process. We had some bumps in the road during the first trimester that gave us pause and made us wait, but as more and more family members were told and the conversation turned to baby clothes and cribs, we knew we had to tell them.
I didn’t plan a big reveal. I didn’t really plan anything at all. One day at dinner I just blurted out that daddy had a surprise to share (yes, I was so scared, I made my husband tell them). He let them know that mommy had a baby in her belly and they were going to get a little brother.
Max couldn’t care less. I’m not sure he even said anything. Ben had some questions. Where was the baby now? How did we know it was a brother? When would the baby come? Does this mean he gets to be a big brother now? And with that, he realized that OMG now he got to be a little brother AND a big brother and wasn’t that so cool because Max only got to be a big brother and the new baby only got to be a little brother but he got to be both! Phew.
Then he proceeded to say two things I’ll never forget. 1) Are you sure it’s a brother because I do NOT want a sister and 2) but Mommy, I’ll still be your baby, right?
Yes buddy, yes you will. All three of you will always be my babies.
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