The Importance of Modeling Kindness to Children
Did you see this story that was all over social media last week? In it, a woman “fat shamed” by a personal trainer who posted pictures and hateful comments about her on Facebook reveals that she’s lost more than 150 pounds on her weight loss journey and that this was the first baseball game she was able to attend in years.
A few weeks ago a stranger commented on my pregnant waddle saying, “You’re sure waddling a lot for someone who doesn’t look that pregnant yet!” He was an older man and I certainly don’t think he meant any harm by it, but his comment still stung. I’m sure it never occurred to him that my waddle wasn’t pregnancy related and rather was the result of recovering from a traumatic surgery during that pregnancy.
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the judgments we all make about the people we come into contact with each day. In life and certainly in parenting, it seems almost inevitable that we regularly make judgments of strangers, other parents, acquaintances, people who chose to work/not work, friends and I’m certainly no more innocent of it than anyone else. And Liam’s getting old enough now that I see that same judgement beginning to creep into his daily experience. Complaining about the kid who acts out in his preschool class or the playground. I want to teach him better and it starts by modeling better.
I hung the quote below at my desk as a daily reminder. We each have our own battle to fight, one that often others know nothing or little about.
Raising Socially Responsible Children – Upcoming Parent Webinar
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