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The Morning

Sometimes, when I go to bed at night, I’m already dreading the morning. Not because I need more sleep or we’re running late for school…but because our morning routine is not working.

My boys whine. All.Morning.Long. They whine about breakfast choices. They whine about getting dressed. They whine about going to school. It’s exhausting and our day usually begins with tears; mine and theirs.

I’ve altered our routine so they eat as soon as they wake up, hoping the rise in blood sugar would raise their spirits. We allow plenty of time for everything that needs to be done in the morning (you know, like putting clothes on) and everything they want to do in the morning (read, play trains, help Daddy with his tie).

My husband and I have teamed up, each getting one child dressed to help alleviate some of the frustration. I listened to the webinar on discipline for suggestions. We follow the same routine every morning. We make lunches at night. We’ve created a reward system. They won’t sleep longer no matter how hard we’ve tried to make that happen.

And yet, nothing is working. Each transition is more painful than the next until we find ourselves yelling and rushing to catch the bus. I’m tired of starting each day like this and am desperately looking for suggestions. How are mornings at your house and how do you make them run smoothly?


  1. Heather February 5, 2013 at 5:16 pm

    Have you tried letting them sleep in their clothes? You may have to adjust outfits a little bit, but then you would have one less thing they HAVE to do in the morning. My daughter used to love the days when she could sleep in a dress that she then wore to school the next day.

  2. Brenda February 6, 2013 at 3:33 am

    We used to have a problem with whining and we approached it from an angle that “crying doesn’t help” or “I can’t understand your whiney voice”.
    That’s what we would tell the kids when they started whining, then we’d walk away until they were ready to converse in a normal voice (and use manners).
    Ignoring the behavior (instead of giving it attention) made it go away. We still have to tell them that we can’t understand their whining once in awhile, but it has greatly lessened since we started this reaction to their whining behavior.

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    Amy February 6, 2013 at 5:44 pm

    I don’t look forward to mornings either. They can be painful. One thing that worked with Olivia when we were first going through the struggles to get ready was to have a task list. We created it together and she drew pictures for each item. These were her “must do’s” for the morning. Once she got those done she could have breakfast and, if there is time, some play time. I like the breakfast after getting dressed especially because that seems to be the item with the most variability on time. If we did it first then still had to get dressed I would totally be stressed if we were off timewise.

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