What I Want my Children to Remember
I’m in the midst of planning Ben’s third birthday party (not to mention we just moved into a new house this past weekend). I always stress when it’s birthday party time. I’m no Organized Mom, planning elaborately themed parties for each of my kids each year , though I wish I was and always ask her for tips and tricks. Even though I want my kids to have the perfect birthday parties, sadly, I just can’t execute them. I don’t like to stay up all hours of the night baking cookies and creating party games. I know it sounds selfish, but I’m sure my kids are much happier with my chipper demeanor after a full night’s sleep than with a perfectly planned party. I totally envy those moms who can pull it off and like doing so.
The reason I stress about it though, is because I want my kids to have good memories (don’t we all?). I want them to think back to how special their birthdays felt each year. But I think that doesn’t have much to do with the party, right? Granted I remember a particularly fun 1950’s themed birthday party (my first boy/girl party) and my surprise Sweet 16 party, but nothing else about childhood birthdays particularly stick out.
What I do remember is how much fun my parents were when we went on vacation. It had nothing to do with where we were…it had to do with their attitude. The freedom being on vacation gave them and the happiness they exuded. I remember taking drives on Sunday afternoons with no intentional destination. I remember my sister and I laughing so hard at dinner about something my mom was upset about that instead of getting in trouble, we made my parents start laughing too.
Here are some things I want my boys to remember:
- The silly songs we make up about everything
- Ben’s nickname (Chicky)
- The sound of the crossing signal at our old house that sounded when we went to the farm across the street
- There is always room for them in our bed (only in the morning though)
- Taking adventures…even if it’s just to the ice cream shop up the street
- How much they love to read
Like the author, I fear they will remember my frustration and shouting; my distraction and unwillingness to really listen to them sometimes but my hope is that they will remember better things. What are some things about their childhood or your family do you want your children to remember?