You’re Doing OK Mom
Some weeks as a mom are better than others. This week was a tough one for me. Besides all the other stuff happening in life and work at the moment that was already putting me over the edge, I had several curveballs thrown into the week. The largest of which is that my daughter had a screaming meltdown during naptime at school – a meltdown that lasted longer than normal and prevented many children from sleeping. When I called in to check on her, I received the play by play. These are the days I regret calling her child care center to check on her (which I do everyday around 2pm). Why couldn’t it have been one of the days my conference call schedule prevented me from checking in? The discussion with the teacher lead to a larger question which is what can the center do for discipline that we too can do at home that has impact, stays in line with the positive discipline and redirection policy at the center and is consistent for home and school. The most important, we both agree, is to have something that is consistent. So the day ended pondering this question along with what have we done wrong as parents that our child can’t control her temper at 5 years old. We have rarely demonstrated this type of behavior as adults so it must be that as parents, we’ve not disciplined tantrums consistently enough to have impact.
While the teachers have never questioned how we raise or discipline our children, as parents we were wondering what we have or haven’t done correctly that has yet to prevent these types of outbursts and what should we do to correct it so it doesn’t get worse with age. It’s something I think many parents think about – if you don’t get a particular issue under control now, what will happen as the child gets older? What will slamming a door, throwing a book, stomping feet, interrupting people, etc… morph into when your child is a teenager? I think one of the hardest parts of being a parent is making daily decisions around how to discipline your child so that he/she will become a wonderful, caring, thoughtful and intelligent adult who has the ability to cope with all that life brings. Phone calls like these make me question our ability.
However, thanks to the wonderful people in my life, sometimes I get just the right message at just the right time. This week, that message came in the form of a Johnson & Johnson Commercial. Even though the child is an infant in this commercial, perhaps this is a good message for all of the parents out there trying to do their very best…